It means he trusts you enough and he believes that whatever you tell him will be kept a secret. It is rare to see a guy venting to you, especially if you are a lady.
Most guys would prefer to keep things to themselves rather than vent to you. Sometimes, this happens as a result of how society has programmed us to believe that men are emotional rocks and they are regarded as weak when they open up.
Despite this, some men still vent when they are going through something. However, when a guy vents to you, he does it because he trusts you and he believes you would not judge him or call him weak.
There are other reasons why a guy would vent to you, you should keep reading.
7 Possible Meanings When A Guy Vents to You
- It means he trusts you
- You both share your secrets and he finds it comfortable
- You are the only woman in his life and that calms him
- He is vulnerable with you
- You are a reliable person
- He wants a closer relationship with you
- He believes you would not judge him or call him weak
It means he trusts you
If a guy vents to you, there is a possibility that he trusts you. If he does not trust you he would not vent to you in the first place.
Usually, when a guy wants to vent to someone, he does it to someone he trusts. If you are that person he trusts, he would not hesitate to vent to you.
If he trusts you to the extent that he vents to you and tells you things he would not tell a regular person, then you should not betray that trust. He holds you in high esteem, so he told you what he is going through.
You both share your secrets and he finds it comfortable
You both share secrets to a certain level. There are times when you both had deep conversations and shared secrets together.
This is one reason why he feels comfortable venting to you. If you both do not share any secrets or you both barely have deep conversations, he would not bother venting to you or telling you anything about what he is going through.
The fact that you both share secrets make him comfortable venting to you. If you have a male friend you talk to on a deep level, you would notice that often when he goes through things and he needs someone to vent to, being the closest person to him at that moment would mean him venting to you. You may need to accommodate him.
You are the only woman in his life and that calms him
Being the only woman in his life means you are either his wife, fiance, or girlfriend. This means you are the only woman he can go to when he is going through some difficult times.
Some guys do not feel comfortable sharing things about them if you are not if they are not familiar with you or if you both are not close.
Being the only woman in his life he is likely to vent to you more. You should have studied him to know the kind of person he is.
If he is the kind of person that hardly vents or only talks when he has bottled it up for too long when he vents to you, it means he can no longer hold it anymore and he needs to let it out because he has bottled it up for too long.
He is vulnerable with you
Usually, when a guy feels vulnerable around you, it means that he can comfortably express himself around you even when he feels weak or when something bad has happened to him.
It means he can comfortably express his vulnerable side and he trusts you would pay attention to him.
You are a reliable person
If a guy has you as a friend and he notices that you are a reliable person, he would find it easy to tell you things he is going through.
When someone is reliable, it means you can bank on the person, you can tell the person to keep what you have told him secretly and he would do just as you said. Your secret is safe with someone like this.
He wants a closer relationship with you
When a guy vents to you, it could mean that he wants a closer relationship with you. To a large extent, he wants to find out if you would be of emotional support to him.
If he sees you as someone that can be of emotional support to him he would start to pay attention to you, build friendship, and may later pursue a relationship.
You have to prepare for something like this if you offer him the emotional support that he wanted after venting to you.
He may want to get closer to you, if you would like to get closer to him too do not hesitate.
If you both are already friends he would want something closer than just a friend. Society may tell you that men barely show emotions, but it is not true for all men.
When you get closer to some men, you would notice that they can also show some emotions and become vulnerable too.
He believes you would not judge him or call him weak
Society believes that men who show emotions are regarded as weak, but if the guy discovers that you do not buy that.
You and you believe that men are also humans who have feelings and there is nothing wrong if he chooses to show emotions, he would trust that you would not judge or call him weak because he vents to you.
What To Do When A Guy Vents To You
When a guy vents to you, do not be quick to snap back at him or become rude to him asking why he is venting to you, you need to listen to him.
Here are various things you can do when a guy vents to you:
- Listen to him
- Recommend he sees a professional if need be
- Show compassion, that may be what he needs
- Be empathetic and try to provide a solution if you can
- Follow your instinct – figure out if he Is trying to open up to you or venting because there is no one to vent to
Listen to him
All he needs is listening ears, when a guy vents to you try to give him listening ears. He may not require you to solve the problem or even provide any solution, he just needs you to pay attention to what he is saying.
Sometimes, after paying attention to him while he is venting, you would notice that he starts to feel a bit relieved.
The challenge may not be solved but talking to you will bring about relief and it could start the process of helping him get better.
Recommend he sees a professional if need be
After he vents to you, if you notice that the issue is not something that he can solve on his own, you can suggest that should consult a professional. If he needs to talk to a therapist, he should suggest that to him.
That would help him solve the issue. A therapist is a professional that can be of great help to him. If eventually, he admits he would not be able to solve the issue himself, he should go see a therapist.
Show compassion, that may be what he needs
Someone compassionate would understand the situation you are in and he would feel deeply for you.
When he vents to you, show compassion by caring, not just watching, you should also show signs that you care about the person, being there when the person needs it.
When you are compassionate you would try your best to be there when the person needs you the most, even if it would be difficult, you make out time to see that the person is ok.
Be empathetic and try to provide a solution if you can
Being empathetic means that you can put yourself in the person’s shoes to understand what he is going through. When the person vents to you and you see that you would be able to provide some help, you should not hesitate to do that.
This is what being empathetic is all about. You listen to the person and try to provide a solution, even if you would not be able to solve it all alone, you should give other alternatives that would be of help to the person.
Empathy is not just about putting yourself in the person’s shoes, but also helping to proffer a solution.
Follow your instinct – figure out if he Is trying to open up to you or venting because there is no one to vent to
This depends on how close you both are. If you both are not so close and he suddenly wants to vent on you, you should try to figure out if he is venting on you because there is no other person to vent to.
To figure this out you need to follow your instinct. Pay attention to how he behaves when he is around you.
If you notice that he never talks to you but when he wants to vent he turns to you, then this is a sign that he is only doing it because there is no other person he can vent to.
If he had someone he was close to or to whom he could vent, he may not even turn to you.
In What Situation Would A Man Open Up To A Woman?
- If he trusts you with his challenges
- If you both are married
- Maybe you are the only one available
If he trusts you with his challenges
This is one thing that can make a man open up to a woman. To a large extent, men barely open up to women unless the woman is his wife or someone he holds in high esteem and whom he can trust.
If he can trust you with his challenges, you would notice that he would be comfortable opening up to you because he knows you would keep it to yourself.
If you are the type of woman that a man can trust and open up to you, you would notice that at some point he would tend to open up to you easily without thinking too much about it.
If you both are married
For a man to open up to a woman it means he has built a good level of trust in you and he knows that you would not be judgemental like how almost everyone else would be.
Maybe you are his wife or his mother. A man would trust his mother or his wife on a whole different level. There is one condition that would make a man open up to a woman.
Men do not open up easily, when he does, there is something he has seen that makes him comfortable to open up to you.
Maybe you are the only one available
When a man opens up to you, it may not be that you are anybody special, or that he trusts you that much, it could just be that you are the only one available at that point that can give him listening ears.
If he cannot find anyone around to vent to if you are the closest person to him, he would have no choice but to vent to you since you are the closest person to him at that point.
Final Words
If a guy vents to you, there is a huge possibility that he trusts you so well and he does not mind sharing some secrets with you.
Especially when it is things he is dealing with. When a guy vents to you, do not judge him or label him as weak, he is probably going through some tough time and he needs someone to talk to to let it all out.
Be empathetic, show some concern, try to provide a solution if you can. You can as well recommend a possible solution for him if you do not have any.
