So a quick question. Have you ever been chased by a guy? Have you ever been a guy’s goal for a certain amount of time? Have you ever had one come at you again and again for some reason?
Well, it happens quite a bit, as guys happen to be natural chasers. Now the chase could either be flattering, cute, or simply annoying.
Usually, it depends on the approach he takes or the guy in question. So why do guys do it? Could it be that he’s interested in your persona?
Could it be that he wanted a relationship with you? Could he be wanting you back in his life after separation on bad terms?
Let’s have a look at 6 possible reasons why any guy would chase you
- He has a romantic interest in you
- He is seeking validation
- He wants an emotional connection with you
- He is physically attracted to you
- He is insecure
- He genuinely wants to know you
He has a romantic interest in you
One common meaning of a guy “chasing” a girl is that he is romantically interested in her. He may decide to go after her by consistently giving her attention, initiating contact, and talking to her as frequently and as interestingly as possible.
It often indicates a desire to establish a romantic relationship with said girl. Since this is popular, especially among today’s youth, now you know that perhaps the next time some hunk comes over trying to catch your attention with flowers or a flattering conversation, he might want to be more than just a friend.
He is seeking validation
In some cases, a guy may chase a girl to seek validation or boost his ego. He may enjoy the thrill of pursuing someone and the attention he receives during the process.
Some guys find themselves in love with finding someone and making them their goal, so they chase as much as possible when they do.
However, this motivation may not necessarily reflect genuine interest or a desire for a meaningful connection.
They might chase fervently for months, even years, but once the person bites the bait, the guy loses interest and walks off to find another chase-worthy soul.
He wants an emotional connection
When a guy actively pursues a girl, it can indicate his intent to build an emotional connection. He may engage in deep conversations, seek common interests, and invest time and energy into getting to know her better.
This kind of pursuit often signifies a desire for a deeper bond and understanding. Sometimes this might even lead to romance as is usually bound to happen when both sides have so many similarities and are placed in the right mood or situations to help each other.
He is physically attracted to you
Another meaning behind a guy chasing a girl can be purely based on physical attraction. For vainglory, a simple man’s attraction to beauty or visual stimuli is quite great, so much so that sometimes, that’s all they want.
He may be primarily interested in pursuing a physical relationship or experiencing a short-term connection.
This approach typically focuses on the physical aspects rather than emotional or intellectual compatibility. As long as you look good, they want that, and they will come for it.
He is insecure
In this case, it’s more common among the shy or “good” guys or those who just had a break-up and can’t accept it or hope it might still not be too late to patch things up.
Sometimes, a guy may chase a girl out of fear of losing her or due to his insecurities. He may feel the need to constantly prove himself or be overly possessive.
While some people would find such a behavior charming and endearing, others would find it clingy and immature, or pathetic.
This behavior may stem from a fear of abandonment or a lack of self-confidence. Some guys need to build up their self-worth and let go.
He genuinely wants to know you
Sometimes, a guy may chase a girl simply because he is genuinely interested in getting to know her better as a person. He may find her intriguing, admire her qualities, or be drawn to her personality.
In this case, his pursuit is driven by a sincere desire to establish a connection and explore the possibility of a meaningful relationship based on compatibility and shared values.
They could share views on spirituality, core values, work ethic, and even their taste in music and the finer things in life.
Some small matters or choices in things happen to bring people together for a long relationship, as friends, or beyond that.
What Makes A Man Chase A Woman?
As previously stated, there are many reasons a man could go into hunter mode to get someone on their side, which could range from being easy on the eyes to being good for the heart, even to being good for business.
Here are just a few things that could make a man chase a woman;
- Physical attraction
- Confidence and maturity
- Mysteriousness and intrigue
- Intelligence and humor
- Emotional strength and compatibility
- Support and encouragement
- Seriousness and focus
Physical attraction
The first thing that activates the urge to chase in any guy, is looks. Men are pretty simple creatures most times when it comes to this, if you look good, you can expect the hunter in them to want to get closer to you immediately.
If a guy is physically attracted to you, regardless of what the other girls say, he will chase after you. He might see you once and find you attractive because a part of you is in agreement with his definition of attraction.
If he is attracted to you, that is if he has a strong physical attraction to you, it can make him want to explore a potential romantic relationship with you, and it may not be much in the longevity side of things, but it would be spicy to some degree.
Confidence and maturity
Aside from physical attraction, guys can be very attracted to confidence and maturity. Not only is it not only an intriguing feature of someone independent, but it is also very inspiring.
Having someone you can count on as they can count on you is always a huge plus. A woman with these qualities can be desirable or seem more alluring to men.
A sort of carriage you have can make a lot of guys want to at least work with you, and at the most, want you by their side in the long run. It’s all about being dependable.
And also a person who happens to conduct your behavior maturely. While it isn’t as easy to find people today who are mature and are not just children in adult bodies when they are found, it is usual for anyone to want to associate with them and if possible steal them for themselves.
Just be easy to get along with as well. A little playfulness won’t make you any less of an adult, but too much and you might get a few stares.
Mysteriousness and intrigue
Guys can be drawn to women who have an air of mystery around them. It makes the women seem like they are different from others no matter how ordinary or similar they are to other women.
The guy’s curiosity is piqued and it pulls him to find out for himself what the woman is “hiding” or what makes her so different and mysterious from other women. Hence the chase.
It is like that situation where sometimes showing all but the most interesting bits at a time can be much more enticing and exciting than showing it all at once. Hence why teasing or seeing once in a while is usually more exciting or interesting.
Intelligence and humor
Guys will chase after a woman who is smart, intelligent, practical, or resourceful any day, as long as it doesn’t become a basis for degrading or insulting them.
It doesn’t mean that the woman has to be highly educated or at the top of the class, a creme de la creme type of person.
It can be in the way she speaks, her eloquence, how smart she is, or the witty jokes she makes. Everyone loves some good humor with good timing.
These different ways to display intelligence and wit make the woman more captivating to the man. Most ladies today have been said to be quite uninteresting or simply too self-absorbed to know how to make a good punchline.
A woman that can make people laugh is always sought after and some guys will happily go through plenty of rejection to get her as company in their lives.
Emotional strength and compatibility
Studies show that on average, women are a lot better at connecting with their emotions and knowing what they feel when and even understanding others’ emotions than men.
Men tend to be more evasive or simply stifle or bottle it all up for as long as possible and for some, they reach critical mass, then the payload at breaking point is massive.
A strong emotional connection is crucial for a man to feel compelled to chase a woman. One who can understand their own emotions and help the man to do that as well, and even help check his emotional excesses sometimes, is the kind of value that not many guys will want to pass up.
When a woman exhibits emotional intelligence, empathy, and understanding, it can create a deep bond and make a man feel seen, heard, and valued.
He feels that he can depend on her and that she can be a rock and shoulder. Such a valuable person will not be left alone.
Even better if she doesn’t just blow a fuse every few seconds while using everything under the sun, even her sex or humanity, as an excuse for uncontrolled outbursts or bad character.
Support and encouragement
If you’re supportive as a friend or coworker, there is no way you’re not on the radar of any sensible man who can see or experience that.
Men appreciate women who are supportive and encouraging of their goals and ambitions.
When a woman demonstrates genuine interest in a man’s aspirations, provides encouragement, and offers a nurturing environment, you can bet that it can inspire him to chase her as he sees her as a potential partner who uplifts and motivates him. This even goes for anyone.
Having a person there to pull or push you up and forward whenever they can and support your ideas is always someone everyone wants on their team. Be it an official team or a personal one.
Seriousness and focus
Men are often attracted to women who have their passions, hobbies, and a fulfilling life outside of a romantic relationship.
When a woman has a strong sense of self, personal goals, and a life that she enjoys, it can make a man want to be a part of that world and actively pursue her.
A woman who only sees the problem or judges for mistakes would be put and kept at arm’s length.
But when they can find such issues and sort solutions for them or at least try doing so, such things help to ease the mind and make it easier to live with a person. A guy will run after such a lady with tenacity.
Is it good to let a man chase you?
Is it ok to be chased? Is it alright to let a man try to go after you? Well yes and no. There is no clear answer, it simply depends on who is involved and how they see it.
Some would say yes because it gives them an idea about how serious the guy is about getting them to be in their lives, how much the guy wants them, and what the guy wants them for.
It also makes it so that if the guy wants something she doesn’t, she can figure him out before they get together or he gives up altogether so a messy situation is avoided.
And while these seem to be good reasons on the surface, it is creating a vacuum between 2 people who may want each other so that one side does the wanting more than the other, which is rather manipulative.
It is also sometimes making oneself more trouble than they are worth.
Some would say no because it reduces the risk of messy situations that come off a person investing time and resources into a chase to get the girl and then not getting returns due to some flaw or issue that arose.
That could get messy, especially with how expensive the market is today and how much most people have to do with the time they would find to have wasted.
Such a thing would just make it seem like gold diggers out for a free treat or extra attention and maybe even pampering only to pull out before any major commitment.
So you see, there is no right or wrong answer to the question. The heart of the matter is, do you. As long as it isn’t hurting anyone and both sides are ok with it, go with it and be happy without regrets in the end.
How long should a guy chase a girl?
This one is even more tricky. Guys would chase a girl for different reasons or have different views of the chase. A chase could last from a few hours to several years depending on the guy’s view of the lady’s value to him.
For example, if a guy simply wants to satisfy their lust a bit, then chasing a girl would last too long. Chasing a girl could go for a few days at the most, then they find a new target.
They usually don’t care with whom as long as it is appeased. But some can want that but only with one lady in particular, maybe due to a certain charm or a particular liking he has for a trait or attribute she has, this can go on for months on end, maybe with a few breaks in between.
If the guy sees her as something he wants for more long-term reasons, like as a member of a team or a business partner, maybe due to organizational skills and the ability to multitask and think up good ideas for example, the chase might last for weeks to months depending on how much value she brings.
Then one who has a want for the person in an interpersonal relationship for the long run, like dating or marriage can go from a few days to years on end.
They could stop almost immediately or go on for a long time as they see something in her they want to keep at their side.
Some guys don’t believe in the chase, it is believed that it reduces the value of the one doing it while placing the other on a pedestal they aren’t meant to reach yet.
They’d try once, twice, thrice, even a few more times and they’d drop it for a while before finding another soul they would like around them.
They do not think anyone is worth the stress of continual investment when it isn’t even sure that there will be good returns or any returns at all.
What to do when a guy chases you?
Rather than panic and freak out, or let it get into your head and miss the chance to enjoy a blissful relationship, here is a list of things you can do:
- Assess your interest
- Communicate your boundaries
- Show reciprocation
- Take time for self-reflection
- Maintain independence
- Trust your instincts
Assess your interest
Take the time to assess your level of interest in the guy. Reflect on your feelings, compatibility, and whether you see the potential for a meaningful relationship. Understanding your desires and intentions will help guide your actions.
Communicate your boundaries
Open and honest communication is essential. Clearly express your boundaries, expectations, and intentions. Let him know what you are comfortable with and what you are looking for in a relationship.
This helps establish mutual understanding and ensures that both parties are on the same page.
Show reciprocation
If you are genuinely interested in the guy, make an effort to reciprocate his attention and affection. Engage in conversations, spend time together, and show genuine interest in getting to know him better.
Building a connection requires effort from both sides.
Take time for self-reflection
While the guy is pursuing you, take the time to reflect on your own needs, values, and long-term compatibility.
Consider whether you share similar goals, values, and visions for the future. This self-reflection will help you make informed decisions about the relationship.
Maintain independence
It’s important to maintain your independence and continue pursuing your passions and interests. Don’t lose sight of your own life and personal goals.
A healthy relationship involves two individuals with their own identities, and maintaining your independence will contribute to a balanced partnership.
Trust your instincts
Trust your instincts and intuition throughout the process. Pay attention to how you truly feel. Listen to your inner voice and trust yourself to make decisions that are right for you.
Your intuition can guide you toward a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Ultimately
Many things could make a guy go after you, if you see some of the above-stated signs, then you can deduce depending on the situation why that guy in your class at school, that neighbor, that new guy a few blocks away, or that one dude at the bar would want to go after you.
And you could also, depending on the situation, react according to how you feel about it or him. Then again, getting chased is not a reason for any sort of stalker or creepy behavior like staring too long or following you home unbeknownst to you.
If you notice such things, it means they’re taking it too far and/or they’re potentially dangerous and you should get the authorities involved. Remember to be vigilant and stay safe.
